Why Motivation Doesn’t Last
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August 25th, 2010 at 8:55 pm
Hi PJ-
Love this one! I’m new to internet marketing. Is it safe to assume that it’s ok to put your video on my blog since you’ve left the embed code readily available? I’m a public speaking coach and am always seeking new ways to help people get around their apprehensions with public speaking. I think this video will be a great message for them. Please let me know if there’s a problem with this!
Thanks,
Lily Iatridis
P.S. I’m in Sandi K’s mentoring program. Heard you on a guest call!
August 25th, 2010 at 9:06 pm
Hi Lily-
Thanks and I’d be delighted for you use any of my videos you see fit. I’m a big fan of promoting your own category, and since I make a big part of my living in public speaking, it only makes sense to contribute where I can.
Have fun with it and be your best,
PJ
October 27th, 2010 at 1:00 pm
The best one yet. I´d never thought about the internalization.
You sure hit the right cord for me and will let you know when I´ve figured out my answer.
Your videos are truly helpful to me and you say just enough in each one to give food for thought.
Great nuggets of information in bite size pieces. Thanks
October 28th, 2010 at 7:36 pm
A great video but if one is in the “flat” zone it is very hard to find that “magic”. Like you said, you have to go back to that “moment” again and again to recapture the motivation. But it’s hard when other people spill their unhappiness over you. I feel like I have to enter a “focus’ tunnel that excludes a lot of the rest of the world. Developing the “mindset”!
October 29th, 2010 at 9:38 am
There’s a distinction we need to visit. The purpose of revisiting that moment of external motivation is to IDENTIFY what motivated you, not to RECAPTURE the motivation. If we are trying to recapture motivation it is still external and can never last. When I encourage you to go back and figure out what lit you up, I’m doing it so you can then bring the reason internal and understand what motivates you long-term.
The same distinction applies to those spilling their unhappiness over you. Realize that their unhappiness is external and you are not obligated to accept it. You can recognize it is there and acknowledge their issue, but it is your choice as to whether you engage it or not. One of the most important things you can do to take control of your own environment is to know what you want from your life and take a stand for it. Have courageous and compassionate conversations with the “unhappiness spillers” about where you are focused in your life and why it is important to you.
No one wants to be unhappy, though it might seem that way sometimes. Unhappy people are looking for someone to plug in to. Someone that knows what they want from life and has real reasons why everything doesn’t suck. I understand the notion of the focus tunnel and wanting to exclude the rest of the world. Been there. What I discovered is that full scale avoidance makes us weak. It might feel better at first and can be used to build a little strength and gain clarity, but it is not a long-term strategy.
We have to be so strong in our purposeful vision that we can mold the input from the rest of the world to our will. We are not attempting to change the world directly, but to determine our own meanings and responses to what the world throws at us. Focus on what you want your life to look like first. You’ll see your motivations rise up from within you. Keep your eyes there and see what begins to happen.
October 31st, 2010 at 4:00 pm
Thanks PJ. A very thoughtful and much appreciated response. Best regards.
November 4th, 2010 at 1:57 pm
Excellent topic and treatment of it! This is one area to revisit and refresh so that I don’t keep looking to the external sources. Thanks!
January 23rd, 2011 at 9:40 pm
Excellent video and the distinction on identify and recapture. Each time I listen, the chinks of old mindsets fall away!